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The Temptations of Friendship

September 27, 2010

“When we use friendship instrumentally to get something else, the beauty of it is undermined … There is a temptation to use friendship because it makes us feel good about ourselves.  We can get a high from helping … We can end up feeling superior.” — Christine Pohl

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  1. September 27, 2010 6:58 pm

    This is such an important, a-ha, point. If I’m honest I often find myself in places where I’m being used AND using someone else in the same moment. And yes I realize all the approved words we have for this: networking being one that immediately comes to mind. But the insidious nature of it all makes it very difficult to tease out when we are carrying the ulterior motives and how they are being played out.

  2. September 28, 2010 12:23 pm

    Ouch! As usual, Christine is right on target.

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